Very fat sex

Are there any books I might check out for sex with an unusually heavy man? Without getting too graphic, his stomach is so large, we cannot have sex; it just simply cannot be done…therefore other positions are necessary…I need help. So your beau has a big belly and it makes penis-in-vagina sex hard. Here are four ideas to get you started.

Fat Girl Sex is a bi-weekly sex column devoted to the celebration of the sexual empowerment of women, body- and sex-positivity, featuring personal meandering about all the nasty things we do in the dark. I wasted the first half of my twenties not having sex because I was ashamed of my body. Needless to say, last month when singer Lizzo was endlessly attacked for wearing something smaller pop stars would have worn without upset, it triggered every last one of my body dysmorphic bullshit insecurities. And we fucking love her for it. Why is it so hard to do the same for Lizzo? And, sure, context is key. But at the surface, both share in their Black womanhood, and both make bad-bitch pop music.

Originally published on Persephone Magazine. Please note: Fat sex is a very big issue heh. Because my area of expertise is limited to sex with size difference as a woman with a vagina, I chose not to explore other areas of fat sex, such as the mechanics of two fat people having sex or trans fat sex for women without vaginas. I welcome all here with that experience to speak up and contribute if they feel comfortable.

I was 16, a size 14 and it was —long before body positivity hit the mainstream or my Tumblr feed. Now, as a year-old woman wearing a size 20, sex has changed year after year as my body has gotten bigger and the dating pool has gotten smaller. Before fucking someone new, I feel the need to address my fatness before we meet. I think this is what some guys were hoping would happen too.